ApexPulse — App-Controlled Prostate Massager

ApexPulse is an app-controlled prostate massager in silicone. It sits in place hands-free once positioned, and the app puts the controls on your phone — or your partner's, from anywhere with a connection.

Specifications

Safety first — the flared base

Never use anything anally that lacks a flared base or an external handle. The rectum has no natural stopping point the way the vagina does, and a toy without one can travel beyond reach. The flared base and perineum arm are intended to remain outside; they do not guarantee easy removal or risk-free use.

Using it

Use far more water-based lubricant than feels necessary. The rectum produces none of its own. Apply to both the toy and yourself, and reapply during use rather than pushing through friction.

Insert slowly, curve pointing toward your navel. The prostate sits roughly 5–7 cm in on the front wall, and feels firmer and more rounded than the tissue around it. Steady pressure works; thrusting does not.

Let it settle before turning anything on. Once seated, it holds position hands-free — that is the appeal, and it is also why getting the placement right first matters.

Start on the lowest setting. Prostate stimulation is more intense than most people expect on a first attempt.

Full technique in Anal Play 101.

Using the app

Pair over Bluetooth before you need it, not during. Direct control works across a room; long-distance control runs over the internet and needs the app on both phones. The on-device buttons cover all core functions, so a dropped connection is an inconvenience rather than a dead toy.

More on remote play in our app-controlled toys guide.

Care & cleaning

• Warm water and mild unscented soap, or a toy cleaner, before and after every single use. Anal toys need this without exception.
• Do not submerge unless waterproofing is confirmed on your packaging.
• Air dry fully before storing. Keep separate from other silicone items.
• Never share without a condom over it and a full clean between users.
• Water-based lubricant only — Check lubricant compatibility against the instructions for this exact model. See Toy Care 101.

Questions

Is this a good first prostate toy?
It is a step up from a handled massager. If this is your first time, our RingGrip — which you hold throughout — is the gentler starting point. Come here once you are comfortable with the sensation and want it hands-free.

Do I need the app?
No. All core functions work from the buttons on the device. The app adds custom patterns and remote control.

Can my partner control it from another city?
Yes, through the app over an internet connection. Both of you need it installed.

Will it stay in place?
The flared base and perineum arm are designed to hold it seated hands-free. Take time over the initial positioning; that is what determines whether it holds.

Do I need to prepare beforehand?
Optional, not required. A normal shower is enough for many people. If you rinse, use plain lukewarm water only — never soap.

Part of our wider guide to male sex toys.

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